Oh Stewart, I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Please hug your mom for me. Once the dread of getting “the call” - which you never are prepared for - was over I was able to properly celebrate all the great memories of being with my parents. You’re in my prayers
Having just gone through that with my Mom in November I can relate to your emotions, it's tough. it sucks, and the mixture of sadness and relief that it's finally over for your Dad when he passes can be a strange mix of emotions to deal with, wishing you and your family well.
We had a super spooky last moment with Mom I would like to share; I was playing piano music youtubes on my phone (she won piano competitions, doncha know!) and her ABSOLUTE FAVOURITE (Liszt Hungarian Rhapsodies) came on randomly - we were all dumb-struck! The sound of her playing Liszt, the slightly out-of-tune piano ringing through the house was immediately returned to us. And, in the tragic comedy of that very moment, her life was over and it was so beautiful and unlikely and her last moment was EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, friend. 👻
Two years ago, I watched my mother die, the very same way. So I can empathize. And I still wonder about my brother's and my decision to honour my mother's DNR decision. My mother (and your father, I suspect) would both want us to carry on and to live our best life. Much like you, I have two sons. But I am 68. I have repeatedly reminded them that I am grateful for my life, that I want no after-death regrets or grieving, and that I simply want them to carry the best of my spirit on with them. I'm sure that you will always carry your father's spirit with you.
My mom is in the early stages of dementia. I know the years ahead will be very hard. I’ve appreciated the stories you have shared about your journey with your dad through this cruel disease. It gives me strength to face this unavoidable road ahead. Blessings to you Steward for sharing your journey with us. May you find peace and strength in the days ahead.
I am so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through . That photo frame of course is the thing to focus on. Your dad was alive and well and able to enjoy being with his family. Those are the moments to cherish and remember. Give your mom some extra hugs. Remember the good times .
I save so many of your posts so I can refer to them when I need common sense reminding. Thank you for more wise words and my deepest sympathies to your family.
Stewart,sincerest sympathy to Bette, yourself, Shannon and the boys. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but unfortunately, it seems to be the norm nowadays. The only positive thing that came out of my experience, was that my mom always knew me. She didn't recognize anyone else, or know where she was, but she always knew me. I felt like I'd been losing her a bit at a time over a couple of years. There are no words to help or make it easier, only to let you know that "the Brittlefans" are out here, thinking of you, prayng for you and sending you all virtual hugs and much love.
So wonderfully put. Nancy and I are sending our best to you and your family. The part you wrote about getting to keep the memories is so true. My dad passed away in 1982 (I'm not doing the math on that, but it's been a good while) and not a day goes by... in all seriousness, NOT A DAY... that I don't recall some nice moment, or funny line, or warm word of wisdom from him. You will have that forever, too. BOOM...right in Death's nuts.
Oh Stewart, I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Please hug your mom for me. Once the dread of getting “the call” - which you never are prepared for - was over I was able to properly celebrate all the great memories of being with my parents. You’re in my prayers
It is an awful time you are all going through. My heart goes out to you all.
Having just gone through that with my Mom in November I can relate to your emotions, it's tough. it sucks, and the mixture of sadness and relief that it's finally over for your Dad when he passes can be a strange mix of emotions to deal with, wishing you and your family well.
We had a super spooky last moment with Mom I would like to share; I was playing piano music youtubes on my phone (she won piano competitions, doncha know!) and her ABSOLUTE FAVOURITE (Liszt Hungarian Rhapsodies) came on randomly - we were all dumb-struck! The sound of her playing Liszt, the slightly out-of-tune piano ringing through the house was immediately returned to us. And, in the tragic comedy of that very moment, her life was over and it was so beautiful and unlikely and her last moment was EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, friend. 👻
Stewart
Two years ago, I watched my mother die, the very same way. So I can empathize. And I still wonder about my brother's and my decision to honour my mother's DNR decision. My mother (and your father, I suspect) would both want us to carry on and to live our best life. Much like you, I have two sons. But I am 68. I have repeatedly reminded them that I am grateful for my life, that I want no after-death regrets or grieving, and that I simply want them to carry the best of my spirit on with them. I'm sure that you will always carry your father's spirit with you.
My mom is in the early stages of dementia. I know the years ahead will be very hard. I’ve appreciated the stories you have shared about your journey with your dad through this cruel disease. It gives me strength to face this unavoidable road ahead. Blessings to you Steward for sharing your journey with us. May you find peace and strength in the days ahead.
I am so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through . That photo frame of course is the thing to focus on. Your dad was alive and well and able to enjoy being with his family. Those are the moments to cherish and remember. Give your mom some extra hugs. Remember the good times .
I save so many of your posts so I can refer to them when I need common sense reminding. Thank you for more wise words and my deepest sympathies to your family.
Stewart,sincerest sympathy to Bette, yourself, Shannon and the boys. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but unfortunately, it seems to be the norm nowadays. The only positive thing that came out of my experience, was that my mom always knew me. She didn't recognize anyone else, or know where she was, but she always knew me. I felt like I'd been losing her a bit at a time over a couple of years. There are no words to help or make it easier, only to let you know that "the Brittlefans" are out here, thinking of you, prayng for you and sending you all virtual hugs and much love.
So wonderfully put. Nancy and I are sending our best to you and your family. The part you wrote about getting to keep the memories is so true. My dad passed away in 1982 (I'm not doing the math on that, but it's been a good while) and not a day goes by... in all seriousness, NOT A DAY... that I don't recall some nice moment, or funny line, or warm word of wisdom from him. You will have that forever, too. BOOM...right in Death's nuts.